mommy friends

I find it very hard to meet people. Sounds like I'm dating, right? No, I mean, I find it hard to meet new friends. I always have, really. This dates back to kindergarten when my teacher wanted to hold me back because I wasn't social enough. I only had one friend at that time. Well, I've since broadened my horizons, but I am the type to retain friendships, and to do that, you often have to give a lot of time and attention to them. Consequently, I never really make an effort to invite new friends into my circle. Who has the time, right? Also, I happen to have a number of super close friends that I've been tight with since fifth and sixth grade. So it's not like I'm lacking a social circle. But since we moved to PA, I'm sooooo far from these super close friends and it really truly sucks. Because I just had my first baby and so did two of these friends. But we can't get together and have play dates, and watch our kids develop friendships like ours. That part breaks my heart. But any mommies out there in cyberspace know that moms need mom friends. We need people who are going through/have gone through the same things we are. Plus, 90 percent of our conversation is centered around our kids and non-mommies can only take so much of that. So, I started taking Emmie to a library story hour, and I have become friendly with a mom there. But it's kind of awkward. I don't remember it being awkward making friends in school. You'd have something in common with someone, and you'd just hang out. When I get together with this friend, it's like asking her out on a date or something (playdate that is). Still, I am grateful to have found her. We often take the kids to the park and they run around while we chase them, sharing snippets of conversation here and there along the way. It fills some of the gap left by the 12 hours between me and my buddies.